Thursday, September 12, 2013

Wednesday, June 5, 2013

Lazure!

I have started learning how to paint lazure!  I've wanted to do it for years ever since I first found out about it when my close friend and her paint mentor painted her living room, dining room, kitchen, and front hallway (which I helped with, incidentally).  I just had to wait til I bought a house.  I had a mobile home at the time with wallpaper on the walls.

Because there are not a lot of sources online for info, I want to share what I learn, and maybe it will inspire someone else to take the leap.  Since I believe in my heart that it will be well worth the effort!

This is a picture of my first practice board which is a tempered hardboard from Home Depot, cut into thirds from the original 4' x 8.   I started with a primer and then a coat of white base paint (eggshell).  Then using special brushes (more about that later), I and a friend who had done the technique in her house, used an accent base (without added paint color) and a smidgeon of acrylic paint (I started with blue) to a bucket with about 12 parts water to 1 part accent base, stirring it around til you get it all dissolved and have a thin consistency of paint color.  I think I applied two coats of blue (letting the first dry for 20+ minutes), then a yellow coat, then blue again.  We were experimenting to see how to get a gentle green in the blue.  We could also have added green color directly from a tube of paint, instead of painting blue, then yellow to get green.  This board has 3-5 layers of acrylic paint on it, which I'm just showing you so you can get an idea of the graduations that are part of the technique.  And, remember, this is just my first try, so hopefully I'll get a better effect as I get more experienced.
More details coming.

Sunday, June 24, 2012

Endings

 

Say what you will, endings are hard.  I went to three groups this past week, all of which were the last meeting til the Fall.  Let's face it, schedules are erratic.  Given that and the fact that I just retired last week made the occasions especially poignant.  and telling.  We don't like endings.  At least, I don't.  They have a disconcerting way of shaking up your routine and if there's anything I love, it's a good routine.  I am a Taurus after all.  Stable.  Down to earth.  Maybe that's too much of a reliable thing, though, after a while.  Everyone neesd to do something to break it up  once in awhile.  And me, too, even as I am also trying to see how it would fit into my "usual" schedule.  How can I do something different, but not so different that I notice?  How can I accommodate my need for growth and newness without disrupting the status quo?  I can't.  Got to suffer the slings and arrows.  Got to face the doubting monster.  Got to brave the dizzying  heights and doldrums and panicky lows.  But, I know I will come out the other side.  Plenty of people have and I'm going to become one of them.  Like that ninety-year-old woman who jumped out of an airplane as part of her bucket list.  I may not do that, but I will do the things that matter to me and so challenge myself out of my comfort zone.  Out of that disorienting state of no routine to fall back on.  No routine to remind me who I am.  Or who I thought I was.  Because I'm not my routine.  I'm not my job.  I'm not even my sensibilities.  There is much possibility here.  And that possibility, that potential, that being-ness doesn't want to be jammed into a routine.  At least not right now.  Too much energy and light wants to escape.  I will use my routine like a handy stairway bannister.  And skip off the steps when I need to.

Monday, May 14, 2012

I will comment on this later... suffice it to say that several "mistake's were made in regard to me and my  job.

Top 10 Mistakes Managers Make Managing People

Avoid the Top 10 Mistakes Managers Make

By , About.com Guide

Many managers lack fundamental training in managing people. But, even more importantly, managers lack the values, sensitivity, and awareness needed to interact effectively all day long with people. Skills and techniques are easier to teach, but values, beliefs, and attitudes are much harder to teach - and harder for managers to learn. Yet, these are the underlying issues that will most make managers successful - or not.
How important is it to help managers succeed? Beyond description. Managers and how they manage their reporting staff set the tone for your entire business operation. Managers are the front line representation of your business. The majority of communication about the business is funneled through your managers. When employees resign, the top reason for their resignation is their relationship with their manager. People leave managers, not jobs or employers.

Select Managers for Managing People

In a job description for a manager, core job functions, traits, and abilities are listed. With this as a guide, manager selection should focus on both the management skills and the candidates’ cultural fit. Within the cultural fit component of your interview and selection process, a candidate for a manager position must demonstrate that he or she has beliefs, values, and a work style that are congruent with those of your organization.
In a people-oriented, forward looking organization, you’ll want to select managers who exhibit these characteristics.
  • Value people

  • Believe in two-way, frequent effective communication and listening

  • Want to create an environment in which employees are empowered to take charge of their jobs

  • Able to hold people accountable and responsible without punitive measures

  • Demonstrate leadership and clear direction

  • Believe in teamwork

  • Place the customer at the center of their reason for existence and regard reporting staff as customers

Mistakes Managers Make Managing

With all of this in mind about managers, preventing management mistakes and dumb decisions is paramount for a successful organization. Do you want to become a better manager? Here are the managing mistakes you most want to notice, prevent, and avoid.
  • Fail to get to know employees as people: Developing a relationship with reporting employees is a key factor in managing. You don't want to be your employees' divorce counselor or therapist, but you do want to know what's happening in their lives. When you know where the employee is going on vacation or that his kids play soccer, you are taking a healthy interest in your employees' lives. Knowing that the dog died, expressing sympathy, or that her daughter won a coveted award at school make you an interested, involved boss. Knowing employees will make you a better manager, a manager who is more responsive to employee needs, moods, and life cycle events.

  • Fail to provide clear direction: Managers fail to create standards and give people clear expectations so they know what they are supposed to do, and wonder why they fail. If you make every task a priority, people will soon believe that there are no priorities. More importantly, they will never feel as if they have accomplished a complete task or goal.

    Within your clear expectations, if you are either too rigid or too flexible, your reporting employees will feel rudderless. You need to achieve an appropriate balance that allows you to lead employees and provide direction without dictating and destroying employee empowerment and employee engagement.

  • Fail to trust: When managers don't trust people to do their jobs, this lack of trust plays out in a number of injurious ways. Micromanaging is one example. Constant checking up is another. Treat people as if they are untrustworthy - watch them, track them, admonish them for every slight failing - because a few people are untrustworthy. Are you familiar with the old tenet that people live up to your expectations?

  • Fail to listen to and help employees feel that their opinions are valued. Active listening is a critical management skill. You can train managers in listening skills but if the manager believes that listening is a way to demonstrate that he or she values people, training is usually unnecessary. Listening is providing recognition and demonstrating your values in action. When employees feel heard out and listened to, they feel important and respected. You will have much more information when you daily open the flood gates.

  • Make decisions and then ask people for their input as if their feedback mattered. You can fool some of the people. but your best employees soon get the nature of your game and drop out. Along the same lines, create hierarchical permission steps and other roadblocks that teach people quickly that their ideas are subject to veto and wonder why no one has any suggestions for improvement. Enabling people to make decisions about their work is the heart of employee empowerment and the soul of employee engagement. Don't throttle them.

  • Fail to react to problems and issues that will soon fester if ignored. Managers have a habit of hoping that an uncomfortable issue, employee conflict or disagreement will just go away on its own if they don't provoke it or try to resolve it. Trust me. It won't. Issues, especially among people, just get worse unless something in the mix changes. Proactive intervention from the manager to coach and mentor, or to make sure employees have the skills necessary to resolve the issue, is imperative. Drama and hysteria do interrupt productivity, motivation, and employee engagement.

  • Trying to be friends with employees who report to you. You can develop warm and supportive relationships with employees who report to you. But, you will have difficulty separating the reporting relationship in a friendship. Friends gossip, go out together, and complain about work and the boss. There is no room for their manager in these kinds of relationships.

  • Fail to communicate effectively and withhold important information. The best communication is transparent communication. Sure, some information is company confidential. You may have been asked to keep certain information under wraps for awhile, but aside from these rare occasions, share what you know.

    Being a member of the in-crowd is a goal for most employees and the in-crowd has information - all of the information needed to make good decisions. Ask for feedback, too. Ask people for their opinions, ideas, and continuous improvement suggestions, and if you fail to implement their suggestions, let them know why, or empower them to implement their ideas themselves.

  • Not treating all employees equally. You don't necessarily have to treat every employee the same, but they must feel as if they receive equal treatment. The perception that you have pet employees or that you play favorites will undermine your efforts to manage people. This goes hand-in-hand with why befriending reporting employees is a bad idea. Employees who are not in your inner circle will always believe that you favor the employees who are - whether you do or not. This perception destroys teamwork and undermines productivity and success.

  • Throw employees under the bus. Rather than taking responsibility for what goes wrong in the areas that you manage, blame particular employees when asked or confronted by executive leadership. When you know the responsibility is ultimately yours if you are the boss, why not act with dignity and protect your employees? When you blame employees, you look like an idiot and your employees will disrespect and hate you.

    Trust me. They will find out and they will never trust you again. They'll always be waiting for the other shoe to fall. Worst? They'll tell all of their employee friends about what you did. Your other staff members will then distrust you, too. Your senior managers will not respect you either. They will question whether you are capable of doing the job and leading the team. When you throw your employees under the bus, you jeopardize your career - not theirs. And, it won't remove one iota of the blame from your shoulders.


http://humanresources.about.com/od/badmanagerboss/a/mistakes-managers-make-managi